While not every dating scenario that involves sex leads to marriage or even a serious relationship, couples do owe it to themselves to talk about where they see their relationship going and how sex might change the relationship — before they get in bed together.
“There needs to be a conversation up front. The woman may assume sex implies a commitment; the man may not see it that way” and this has been the reasonable argument.
First Rule – Talk It Over with Yourself First
Having an honest conversation with yourself about sex is just as important as discussing it with your partner, experts say.
“Every woman and man should know their boundaries before they start dating, and most of us don’t
And by boundaries, it’s not just about the physical boundaries that come with sexual territory. but also reference goes to emotional boundaries.
Emotional wholeness is crucial to the decision process of whether or not to have sex,
If you value a committed relationship, ask yourself, ‘What do I need to do to stay emotionally whole
When directing this same rule or call it advice to a male audience, things are put quite differently.
Three things have to be made sure are put in conjuction – The Brain, Heart and the Penis..they should all be in a straight line before you have sex
Youought to invest the same amount of time conducting these ‘self’ conversations about personal readiness before a big date.
– Think about your sexual boundaries before you’ve had that frst drink.
Once you’ve decided what you want out of a date make it known – If you just want a one-night stand, you owe it to your partner to tell them ‘it’s just sex I’m after. Much as your partner may not welcome this news, it at least will minimize later disappointments.
Then, too, does an up-front conversation about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
The risks of STDS have got to be discussed and prevented as well – the thought of condom use has to be definite, even in a committed relationship – an expert doctor (names with held) adds.
The concern about STDs and unwanted pregnancies can help create sexual boundaries, believes the Doctor. If, for instance, you’re on the fence about whether or not to take sexual activity to the next level, a healthy dose of fear may cause you to pause, particularly if you’re not prepared to take the necessary precautions. Plus, not having adequately prepared for these practical aspects of sex may signal an overall non-readiness to engage in it.
At some point during a courtship, many dating couples decide its time to break down initial boundaries — be it emotional, physical, or both — and engage in a sexual relationship. If both people are playing by the same dating facts, sex can serve as the gateway to a consensual, committed relationship.
“I thought there were differences between men and women and how they felt about relationships. But overall, I have found that very often they want the same thing,” the expert adds.
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