TEENAGERS AND young adult women are often emotionally bruised when social media becomes their central by-pass for finding meaning and purpose in life.

Zari and Farouk painted the city red for a few months before their bitter breakup

Zari and Farouk painted the city red for a few months before their bitter breakup

Because of unlimited media freedom and digital keenness, parents, guardians and moral leaders are struggling to find How? and When? To control these young females against this calamitous medial effect.

As a media Coach with expertise guidance in relationships and Focusing Practices (FP), there are limits to what social media can positively provide and female users who do not understand these limits may struggle in a variety of ways.

Right now, I share with you phase ONE of the four MAJOR downsides of the Social Media that directly impede girls to develop successful relationships.

 False #1

Social Media Helps support Mind, Developing New, And Friendlier Connections.

It is known that girls learn language earlier than boys and express their emotions with greater passion beginning as early as toddlerhood. This emotional awareness and communication strength enables these little girls develop friendship patterns both in the home neighborhood and elementary schools.

But as they mature, girls are also socialized to believe that if they are not perfectly pleasing, they risk losing closeness to others. Without counter balancing guidance, the need to please launches them into endless self-improvement makeovers; …and the social media has the power to magnify this tendency into unhealthy degrees.

Actually in an online collection conducted

in Uganda and Kampala in particular shows that; 68% of girls aged between 14 -19, have a shaky sense of esteem and less clear identity; and are most likely to engage in Internet overuse. They register into social media sites to figure out who they are, what they should look like, who they should try to be, win ‘likes’ &’comments_’ and how they can compose themselves over. It has now become a labyrinth of questionable place and a sly commercial invitation for girls to build perishable personality and negative self-comparisons.

We met this brand-type of girls online and most of them were students characterized with more than thirteen hours online engagements in 24 hours while in holidays. They concede risks carrying phones under their bikins to school. A percentage of these little moms also explained How their mothers and Other hommies favor them with mobiles to help them engage their online peers and manage their platform updates.

For these young females and the number is highly multiplying, Social media does NOT support reality based personality growth that helps girls engage and connect with true identity. It simply provides cheap opportunities of empty interactions and has the power to put you, your daughter/sister on a “Merry-Go-Round To Nowhere”!


Born and raised in flatlands of western Uganda; Mwinebantuki Ambrose is Media& Dating Coach, with a decade-term research and interest in the impact of media, gender and culture on intimacy and relationship development. He graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Mass Communication at Makerere University, and is currently pursuing a psychology diploma in human relationships. Coach Ambrose is available online for dating and relationship guidance.






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