The story of boy meets girl and they live happily ever after seems to be a tale of yore. Times are changing.
Relationships are short-lived, divorces are common. While some blame the lack of time couples spend with each other, a few believe it’s because they are no longer financially-dependent on each other. In the absence of a universal handbook on how to maintain relationships forever, we draw a few lessons from celebrity lives.
Move in and learn
Whether it is a preference for a particular TV programme, food choices, or toilet habits, the inability to adjust in a marriage is cited as key reason for divorce. Perhaps, moving in together will help you learn a thing or two about your potential spouse before you decide to settle for good. Before Bobi Wine tied the knot with lady love Barbie Ithungo, the two were in a live-in relationship for many years.
Dress to match
While you may be intellectually compatible, paying attention to your physical appearance will keep the attraction alive. Relationship counsellors advise couples to make an added effort to exercise regularly and eat right. That way, you will always be eyecandy to your partner. Spruce up your wardrobe for those special social gatherings, and dress upyour best. When compliments come your way, or when other couples confess that they wish to look as good as both of you, it will make things even more exciting when you get home. Four kids down the road, Chameleone and Daniela Atim rarely look mismatched when they are in public together and always make for a stunning picture.
While indulging in the fun stuff like, salsa, sailing, paragliding and bungee jumping on weekends will help you bond, working together professionally will make you depend on each other. While some couples would like to avoid facing each other in office and at home, one can certainly take a cue from John Kalema and Juliet Underwood of The Ebonies. If your profession allows you, team up for a common project and bring your unique skills to the table. Since you understand each other well, you’ll know how to keep you partner motivated and bring out the best in them. It will work wonders for the business too.
Maintain your identity
If you devote all your time and energy to your partner, you might end up becoming too clingy. Let your relationship be a priority, but make sure to set time aside for your college gang and those giggly girls’ night outs. Justice Julia Ssebutinde and husband John set a good example of maintaining independent identities.