The answer is NO.
Ghosting is an expression of inconsideration, a lack of empathy, love or care, and self-centeredness.
A person that’s able to ghost you does not care about you. Not in the slightest.
A person that doesn’t care about you will express that throughout the relationship, whether it be subtlely or blatantly.
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It’s those red flags that you either didn’t pick up on, or ignored.
Although, if you choose to take the ghoster back when they resurface,
Then it can be considered a burgundy flag.
The Discussion
They will tell you exactly what they plan to do in the relationship from the beginning…. by virtue of the way they treat you. Sometimes, they’ll literally tell you to your face that it won’t end well… that they aren’t “the key” to your anything. You won’t believe them though because you are too busy making up a story in your own head about them… listen to them and your gut instead of making them out to be a person you can fix. You can’t. 🙂 Take people at face value. In their present state and in yours.
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you are so right he told me in the beginning it will not end well
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OMG..omg..holy shit. I the beginning he told everyone how much he wanted me – a guy who wasn’t interested in anyone for over 4 years. We struggled at first to even connect. Our first private discussion – I asked him why was he kept pushing me away if he wanted to date me so bad – his response, and I quote:” Because nothing good will come of it. I have to much in my head and you deserve better”. His head was hanging low. I’ll never forget that night. I – of course -blurted out:” Ya haven’t even tried yet”. He just shook his head in disbelief. I kept trying. I am blown away by my own stupidity.
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My wife of 8 years ghosted me and forced a divorce. I became so depressed that all I could do was lay in bed at my mother’s house for 2 months. Wasn’t eating or really sleeping. I lost a bunch of weight and started to become delusional. Then I relapsed on heavy drugs and literally became psychotic; something I’ve never experienced in my life and I’m in my mid 30s. I spent 3 weeks in an inpatient psychiatric hospital. She used this episode as grounds to file a restraining order against me from afar. This all started in April, hospital was just in June. Im still devastated and destroyed. Last I heard she recently left the state; though she won’t speak to me and obviously I can’t contact her which she made sure of by placing a restraining order.
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You saying they make you out to be the crazy one just really hit home for me. I gave everything I had in me to take care of this person. I think about suicide daily.
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In my opinion it is ok to ghost someone that manipulates you and play with your emotions.
I only ghost narcissists when I see that there is no use in trying to make an effort anymore! Narc Narc, who’s there? Not me!
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This is a red flag, but it’s not the worst one. Some people ghost because they can’t handle being around people anymore, there are indicators of direct violence which are worse.For example: certain types of gaslighting and/or stories of violence with exes, especially if they’re blameless=way worse than ghosting.
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Ghosters who don’t know themselves well enough to give a warning about being overwhelmed are not ready for a relationship. But that isn’t an indication of violence.